Do You Review Your Netflix Subscription More Often Than Your Relationship?

Why do we review everything except the one thing that could cost us everything?

Let me ask you something:
If you’re driving a bus and no one’s on it, where the hell are you going?

I hate to say, if your partner’s already mentally checked out and you're still trying to steer things forward on your own, you’re not in a relationship, you're in a routine.

And routines don’t build futures.  They build resentment.

So What’s Driving Your Relationship – Love or Habit?

So many women I work with realise, too late, that their relationship has been silently crumbling for years. Not because of one big betrayal. But because they stopped checking in with each other.

No reflection.
No recalibration.
No honest conversation about where you’re heading and whether you’re even heading there together.

It’s the slow drift. The dangerous kind. Because by the time someone jumps ship, they’re already long gone emotionally in their mind.  Why does this happen...?

Life takes over.
The routine grinds.
Expectations mount.
And we hardly stop to breathe.

Let me ask you something else:

Do you spend as much time preparing for your Performance Appraisal at work as you do reviewing your relationship?

That single meeting, your annual review is often the culmination of a year’s worth of effort. You prep. You reflect. You advocate for a promotion or pay increase.

But your relationship?
No agenda. No reflection.
No alignment meeting with your partner.

Imagine if we put that same intentionality into upgrading our relationships.

The Quiet Exit Is Real , Especially for Women

Let’s talk facts for a minute.

Women are far more likely to mentally leave a relationship before they ever physically walk away.  According to relationship psychologists (and yes, the stats back it up), women tend to process the emotional end of a relationship before they act on it. 

They’ve thought it through. Sat with it. Carried it.  So when she finally says, “I’m done”?  She’s already gone.

Men, on the other hand, are statistically more likely to stay until they’ve got somewhere else to land, a new relationship, a distraction, a buffer.  Not always, but often.

And in both cases?
Nobody ever sat down and said:

“Hey. Are we okay?”
“Are we aligned?”

“Are we still thriving together?”
“Are we even still in this together?”

 This Is the Real Audit

When I created the Midlife Audit Workbook, I didn’t set out to fix people’s lives with a checklist.  I created it as a mirror.  To help you look at your current state e.g. career, mindset, purpose, finances, and yes… relationships.

And you’d be shocked how many women can tell me how much they’re saving each month, but can’t tell me the last time they felt connected to their partner.

They know how to budget, juggle, plan, support, they’re experts in workplace performance.

But they haven’t asked their partner, “Are we still building the same future?” in years.  

Don’t Wait Until You’re Driving Solo

I’ve learned this the hard way.  You can’t drag a relationship to clarity on your own.
You can’t set shared goals for a party of one.  You can’t resuscitate something that’s been on life support for a decade and call it growth.

But you can make a choice.  You can open the conversation before it’s too late.  You can do an honest, loving, no-BS relationship review that says:

What worked this year?
What didn’t?
Are we aligned on what we want next?
Have we drifted?
Are we still each other’s teammate, or just flatmates?

Not to throw blame, but to catch the cracks before they shatter everything.

Make It a Ritual, Not a Rescue Mission

What if you set a date, once a year, to check in on your relationship like you check your health, your car, your bloody Netflix subscription?

What if you booked a weekend away with no distractions, no drama, just two people reviewing what they’ve built together?

No, it won’t fix everything.  But it could stop you from losing everything.

In My New Chapter, That’s the Non-Negotiable

These days, I don’t pretend anymore. My relationship is too precious and isn’t about roles or routines. It’s about real talk.

We check in frequently. We call it.  We don’t bottle up stuff until it becomes a detour we can’t recover from.

It’s not always pretty, but it’s honest.

And when you’re building something that fits you, not just the version of you that used to work, honesty is the only way forward.

So... when’s your next Relationship Review?

Book the bloody weekend.  Failing that, dinner.  Something that takes you away from routine.
Capture your year and following years aspirations and goals. Scroll your photos on your phone for the evidence that you’re both still connected.

Ask the real questions.

Find out whether you’re still building the same life or just occupying each other's space.

Want help asking the right questions? That’s why I created The Midlife Audit Workbook.

Use it for your life. Use it together.  And make your next chapter one you choose not one you survive.  You can access it HERE